What My 6 Month Sabbatical Did

I contemplated whether to write this blog or not. Originally, I didn’t see a need to share my story becuase this isn’t the first time I have taken a sabbatical. However, with each sabbatical I always learn something new about myself and I believe that should always be shared.

When I wrote and released those first few blogs over six years ago, it brought me so much joy and happiness knowing I was helping other women. I opened it with the pure intention of using my personal life stories of struggle or pleasure to inspire women everywhere to want better for themselves. You do better when you know better, which ultimately makes you better. But you can’t change what you don’t even know, right? Stories on marriage, motherhood, healthy living, and wellness all encompassed in one place for the reader (YOU) to relate to and see that you can start living your best life regardless of the obstacles. Luwame came to life as a way to reach out to other women, especially mothers, and let them know that they are never alone because I didn’t have that when I was a new mother. I didn’t have an outlet, a place where I could find other women who understood the struggles I was going through, and it was lonely.

Let’s fast forward sixteen years! I, Luwam A. Tesfaye, am a mom of four! Even saying it today, almost two years after my youngest, Lucas, was born, shocks me. Four little people came from my womb into this world, and boy, oh boy, was I not ready for how the change in our family dynamic would impact me. I wrote a blog a while ago on how our lives changed and how different my picture of motherhood was from reality.

I don’t remember when blogging began to feel more like a chore then something purposeful for me and others. I don’t remember when exactly the imposter syndrome began or when I started to feel as though everything had to be perfect in order to hit publish, but all that caused me to stop in my tracks. It created the fear of failure, and once that was embedded in my mind, it became all I could see. Have you ever felt like you failed in something because the measurement of success you envisioned did not come to life? That’s how I feel: like I failed because Luwame did not reach the metric I placed. Now I feel like I’m hiding away in the excuse of my motherhood duties because motherhood is what I do best! It’s where metrics do not exist and are instead replaced with love- unconditional love. I know my children; I can feel their needs and instantly know how to help them. It’s second nature, and I find comfort in that. There is no need to prove myself in motherhood like there is with Luwame. So, I guess that’s when I stopped writing. Somehow in someway, the urge to prove myself became more important than the purpose.

In my sabbatical, I focused a great deal on why I am the way I am. What happened to me that could affect my way of thinking to this extent? Much of it stems from my upbringing and my need for perfection so I could be seen by my parents, grandmother, aunts, cousins, and even friends. This need for perfection caused expectations on how my loved ones should love me in return, and those expectations followed me into adulthood, affecting my marriage and the way I parented. Understanding all of this did not bring me peace, but it did lead me to the one place where peace was guaranteed: GOD. By knowing where my pain stemmed from and how it has affected me, I was able to see past it. It’s hard for me to explain, but the instant I realized that my way of thinking had nothing to do with me and everything to do with how I was conditioned to think, I was able to change how I saw myself and the expectations I created utterly. The best part was that I finally felt free; again, I can’t explain the freedom in words; it’s just a feeling I feel inside me, and I know that this freedom could have only come from GOD. This is where my peace lies. True everlasting peace is a gift from our creator, and without Him in my life, I would have never felt the urge to understand how I kept trying new things and felt like a failure at them all; instead, I would have forever continued to chase perfection.

I have to be completely honest with you. I am still determining what Luwame will look like going forward regarding blogging or podcasting. A part of me feels like that season has passed. I will continue, however, to always provide programs that help women create and start becoming the dream version of themselves because that is where I am called to be. God intended that purpose for me, and all the struggles and lessons have led me here.

Now, let’s talk about the fun stuff! Apart from all that I have listed above, the past six months have been unbelievably eye-opening and amazing. I traveled a great deal and got to experience different cultures. I spent quality time with my loved ones and never felt the need to post or talk about it. I started taking Pilates classes and learned how to connect more with my body.

In draining out the noise that came with my need for perfection, I was able to do more of what made me happy, and it served me well. Somewhere in month 3 or 4, my mindset shifted (funny, I write that because I offer a course called SHIFT that does that exact same thing), and every moment became a blessing instead of a complaint. Don’t get me wrong, I still find things that I wish were different, and I will occasionally complain about them. Still, the difference is that I see my complaint as a simple complaint instead of something I have to dwell on and worry about and let it fester in me, causing all kinds of fear and anxiety to creep into my mind. I see everything for what it is- A temporary issue that will pass because it will indeed pass; the only thing that is forever is GOD, and that, my dear reader, is a FACT.

Sending you much love and blessings in whatever season of life you are in.


Luwam T.


Empowered Women Empower Women- Wintana Kiros of Reset Lifestyle

This month’s Empowered Women Empower Women series features an amazing woman specializing in helping people gain their health back through nutrition education, health coaching, and wait for it… styling!! Yup, she does it all, and she does it so that you can live a life where you are thriving. She does this, in part, using Reset Lifestyle.

Wintana is an entrepreneur, a clinical dietitian, a former model, a mother to two handsome boys, and a wife, among many other things.

Enjoy reading all about Wintana Kiros’ journey and how she became the fantastic mompreneur she is today! Read on as she tells us more about “Reset Lifestyle”.

1)  Tell me about your journey- What inspired you to become a registered dietitian/health coach and a stylist, and what do you want readers to gain from ‘Reset Lifestyle’?

I became a health coach and stylist because my passion is truly helping people. I modeled in college and enjoyed the creative styling side of fashion. When I graduated, I began my career as a clinical dietitian. Over the years as a clinician, I realized that diet and exercise were only 33% of the solution to having true well-being. This led me to launch Reset Lifestyle. I offer my clients a whole-person approach addressing their nutrition, stress, sleep, mental health, hydration, and style. Allowing us to feel good, look good, and do good for our family, friends, and community.

My hope is that readers understand the truth about their well-being. Unlike what we see and hear in the media, well-being is more than counting calories and exercising to death. Well-being is seeing yourself as a whole being, addressing your stress, sleep, mental health, and being intentional about hydrating your body. It is essential to nourish your body and move your body because it feels good, not just as a form of reward or punishment. This is why reset lifestyle is so helpful!

What inspired you to become a registered dietitian/health coach and a stylist, and what do you want readers to gain from 'Reset Lifestyle'?

2)    What are some of the hurdles you faced when you first started your business and some that you’re still facing today?

I would say the majority of the hurdles were in my head. I was worried that I didn’t know enough to help my clients despite the many years of training and work experience. I soon started to see results in my clients’ lives, and that built my confidence. I now focus on curating tools and resources to help my clients sustain the results they have achieved.  The only hurdle I face today is helping individuals see the importance of investing in themselves to work with me and regain their health. 

3)    What do you wish people knew more about when it comes to working moms, especially moms that run their own businesses?

I wish people respected our time and saw us as business owners. We are NOT running a hobby, and we have bills to pay, just like the 9-5 employees. We are highly organized and value our time more than ever in this season of our lives.  We give 100% to everything we do, we show up for our family, and we are the greatest cheerleader for our clients.  We love what we do, and we want to do more of it every day.

4)    If there was one thing you’ve done that you could go back in time and change, what would it be?

I wish I would have just started earlier; I held myself back, thinking I needed more information or resources before I started. The truth is, I developed and created most of my tools and resources once I started seeing my clients. 

5)    Where do you see yourself in 5 years?

Five years from now, I see myself continuing to grow my virtual practice and being present for things that matter the most. I will be an expert in women’s health and support women to accomplish their goals in life. Also, I will partner with different health care providers to offer well-rounded wellness services.

6)    You quit your full-time clinician career to follow your dreams of opening your own business in 2019, all while raising two young boys.  How do you manage to balance it all- motherhood/marriage/building a business/friendship?

The truth is there is no such thing as balancing your different hats as a woman.  You just start to be great at delegating various tasks so you can spend more quality time with the people you love. I choose to be present and fully engaged in whatever hat I am wearing at the moment. I used to think I had to give equal amounts of “time” to all my different hats; however, it was unrealistic. Now, I intentionally choose to be present at the moment, so I can show up for the people in my life and my clients instead of dividing my attention and feeling guilty all the time.

7)     In your eyes, what’s your most significant accomplishment?

I am doing it scared and leaning on my faith to help me walk this unknown and uncertain territory called Mompreneurship. I trust God completely to provide for my needs because I am doing what he has called me to do.  Therefore, he has provided for every mission he gives us.  God has consistently provided for every need in my business, and he has not failed me!

8)    What advice do you have for someone that wants to become a health coach/dietitian or start their own business?

I say start, don’t wait for things to be ‘perfect.’  Just start, and everything will start to show up for you. Trust the process. Failure is just feedback. Most importantly, fail fast and forward so you can get great at what you do.

Also, I recommend finding your village. A tribe of like-minded people in your field that you can support and lean on as you continue to grow your business. Since beginning Reset Lifestyle, I have made some amazing connections that have helped me grow as a dietitian and business owner.

9)    What are some empowering words or quotes you often find yourself turning to?

“Somebody somewhere is depending on you to do what God has called you to do.”

“I never lose; I either win or learn” – Nelson Mandela.

These quotes have grounded me in challenging times. I am grateful every day that I get to do what I love.

10)    Do you have any last words for our readers…?

Perfection is the perfect recipe for inaction; just start whatever you were supposed to do. Trust the process, things, and people will begin to show up for you so that you can pursue your assignment. Most importantly, God ALWAYS has a provision for the mission he has assigned you to complete. Please do it for the kingdom and not for the culture.

I hope you enjoyed reading all about Wintana’s journey.  More importantly, I hope her story inspired you to follow your dreams and create what you feel is missing in the world.

Lastly, if you are looking to start your healthy living journey and would like to join a tribe that will cheer you on and assist you with the nutritional side of your new path, check her site out at  

Please be sure to stay tuned for monthly featured posts from other empowered women. Contact me if you would like to share your story and empower our readers. As always, I’d love to hear from you.